Recently, I received a call from Channel News Asia asking me to do an interview for a show on ‘Dealing with Failure in Singapore’. They asked me questions like, ‘ How do you deal with failure?’ etc… Then the last question they asked shocked me quite a bit. The questions was…..
Adam Khoo is a person that many people love to HATE…What are your comments about this?
So, I asked them why they would ask such a question. They said that from their research, they have found that there are people out there who hate people like me who have become rich and successful at a young age. Such that they would take every opportunity to criticize and tear us down. Sure enough, if you read some FORUMs, you would definitely find a handful of people sliming me…and even people like Anthony Robbins, Robert Kiosaki, Hillary Clinton etc…
They would say stuff like, ‘Adam is just another con man’, ‘ Adam is just a luck bast***’, ‘ Adam is an arrogant assho**’, ‘ Adam’ just interested in making your money, and not helping anyone’ etc… The funny thing is that all these comments come from people who have NEVER READ MY BOOKS, NEVER ATTENDED MY SEMINARS and don’t EVEN KNOW WHO I AM. Although it used to hurt me to read such comments in the past, I don’t really care about it now. This is because it is the people who have ATTENDED MY PROGRAMS and READ MY BOOKS who have given me all the love,encouragement and support, much more than what these critics can write.
What baffles me is why some people are so hateful to others who they don’t even know, just because we happen to be rich and successful. I have discovered that there are many people out there who DESPISE others who are rich and successful. When they see someone is a beautiful car or living in a mansion, they would say things like, ‘ FILTHY RICH BASTAR**”, ‘ Must be his father gave him the money lah!’ I used to have friends who are like this
DO YOU RESPECT OR DESPISE THE RICH- IT AFFECTS YOUR OWN WEALTH & SUCCESS
I believe that if you hate rich and successful people, you will never be rich yourself. Why? Because your subconscious mind will never allow you to be someone you despise. When I was young, I used to go WOW when I saw rich people and I used to believe that they DESERVE what they got, admired them for it and CHOSE to MODEL THEM. That is one of my success secrets for being rich. I think that those who sit aside and slime/ criticize others (especially the successful) for no reason, are just bitter that they don’t have the guts to go for their own dreams. So, they make themselves feel better by sliming others.
DO YOU SEE THE BEST OR THE WORST IN OTHERS?
Recently, someone bought a FOREX ebook online and found that the materials were EXACTLY The same as the WEALTH ACADEMY FOREX training notes developed by own of my trainers, Yeo Kheong Hee. Without making any verification, this person assumed that Kheong Hee copied from this online ebook and wrote a real nasty email to my company to accuse kheong hee of being a con and a cheat. He then circulated this email to all the past participants. What I was really disappointed with was that there were other past students who jumped in, sending malicious and nasty emails commenting that Adam Khoo Education Group was in the wrong for supporting this trainer blah blah blah
After appointing an litigation lawyer and doing a full investigation, we have irrefutable evidence that in fact, the ebook sold online copied and stole kheong hee’s materials. We are now pursuing legal action to sue all those people who have infringed on our copyright and defamed us without just cause. However, my point is why do some people ASSUME THE WORST in others? Why did people maliciously attack my trainer when they saw the chance, even before they got the facts? Again the sad thing is that these bunch of people who started it weren’t even his students! They were just out to make trouble and to sabo Kheong hee’s reputaion and mine. Is it because they are so jealous that Kheong Hee makes US$20,000+ a month as a FOREX trader and is financially free at age 33?
Recently, when Hillary Clinton cried on national TV after an initial nomination loss and later regained victory in New Hampshire, people posted comments on youtube calling her a faker and opportunists and playing the weak feminine card. If you have read her biography, you will know that Bill and Hillary Clinton made a pact when they were students in Yale University that they will both HELP THE POOR and LEAD THE COUNTRY by becoming US Presidents one day, Bill and then Hillary. Hillary’s was so focused on her goal to become president that when Bill was accused of sexual misconduct when she was first lady, she did not leave or divorce him. Instead, she chose to stand by him and forgive him because she had the bigger picture in mind. She wanted to become President after Bill and knew that divorcing him would destroy her chances.
Instead, she chose to show her strength and courage by standing by him, forgiving him and rebuilding everything so he could one day help her to get elected…which is what she is doing right now. I don’t know about you, but I truly admire this woman. She is so focused on her goals and the bigger picture, that she is willing to manage her emotions and put aside their differences to work towards a bigger cause…for the American People. But some people criticize her actions as being calculating, manipulative and devious.
My question is why are there people who SEE THE WORST in others and find satisfaction in sliming others whenever they get the chance. Why do they do it? I have always chosen to always see the very best in others instead. I believe that when we see the good side of others, it makes our world a much better place to live in and it brings out the best in ourselves as well…what do you think?
Adam,
You cannot change the world nor control what others say/think. You cannot impose your beliefs and values upon others no matter how well/good your intentions are. Perhaps that sound “motherhood” esp.for someone like you. There are many different ways to skin a cat”; perhaps the way that you do/preach doesn’t appeal to some because it could come across to some as arrogant, materialistic and shallow (MONEY,MONEY, MONEY!!” is that what life is all about).
Whilst I know that it is probably part of your grander plan to help the less fortunate (I recall that there one of your goals to set up a foundation) the world out there doesn’t or hear of that. Perhaps you want to consider the “gentler”, caring side and giving back to society; something that might be less visible/known to the public at large.
Some times I also wish bad things for other people who were ufair to me. and then I compete with them and show them that I’m better than them.
But if I see someone else was getting successfull I would rather model him/her.
this seems natural to me. “If someone is unfair you want to hit back”.
Dear Adam,
It is very human to be jealous of others who are better than us. We do this to others and others do it to us openly, secretly in the recess of our hearts. Just forgive them and forgive ourselves at times as we do commit them too as we just naturally can’t help it sometimes, most of the time? This awful thing called jealously and envy!
You have so much big things going ahead for you. Hope you will get over that bad feeling about the whole thing and don’t forget to smile at the many bright side of things.
Have a fantastic 2008.
Grace Toh
Adam,
There are people who just want to be flowers so leave the flowers along the side walk and focus on the path of creating more value on planet earth.
Ken Chee
Hi Adam,
I always believe that ” Success is in the eye of the beholder”…Great to know you’ve proven ppl out there that you’re successful in whatever you wish to do.
Thanks for the great website and sharing ideas with ppl around the world.
CHEERS!
AhShuet (M’sia)
Dear friends,
I’m sorry to hear about Kheong Hee’s incident. Yes, I’ve met people that are jeolous on the rich, especially the rich in young age. Sadly speaking, my father is one of these people…
You are right, Adam. People who didn’t know you came up with such comments. But I’m glad that the majority who have joined your seminars, have read your books, have met you in person, continue to love and support you!
I wish to meet you one day, Adam, but I would like to do so when I reach my financial-freedom day. Till then, take care.
Janise (from Malaysia)
i was like that, but i eventually opened my eyes and decided to leave the clique whom i associated with for quite a few years that indulged in this. (but i never hated the rich, because if they are rich, they deserve to be.)
a few reasons in my personal experience why people indulge in seeing the worst:
1) ‘self-protection’
whenever i speak good about people i didn’t know very well, my mother would tell me, “just take what people say at face value, so you won’t get cheated.” (she’d use my history of being involved with selfish people as evidence of my trust poorly invested) but i think it’d be robbing ourselves of the chance to find wonderful people.
2) unpredictability in people
sometimes i find it difficult to see the best, because people tell me upfront in my face that they _are using_ me. one was a relative and one was a close friend.
3) these people are chronically angry
i read from a book, that chronically angry people basically have everything against the way everything is, so no matter what you did, it would agitate them anyway.
4) misconception
i have friends who told me before, “people who put on a happy front are fake.” i’m not too sure why…
5) they just don’t like a person’s behaviour
well, at least i think so. as long as a behaviour vaguely resembles someone they don’t like (such as “money-making enthusiasts behave almost like enthusiastic conman”), they will associate you with that person and hate you.
6) pre-taught perception
i read this example about monkeys. there were four monkeys put in a place with a pole that had bananas hanging at the top. each time they climbed up to get it, water would splash them. soon, they stopped bothering. one monkey was removed, and a new monkey was put in. it was new, and tried to climb up, but every time it did, the others would pull it down. eventually, it stopped bothering. as the process repeated, the place was soon filled with monkeys that had never been splashed by water–but never bothered to get the bananas because the others pulled new monkeys down.
i believe humans are much that way–they believe there’s some element of truth in what others say because everyone’s saying the same thing. but the shocking truth is, no one knows why. there are those who told me, “comics will not make money in singapore.” and i asked them, “so, why is it a big hit in japan?” their response? “the people there are receptive! people here aren’t.” i find it odd that locals are reading comics if that’s the case.
i particularly dislike statements like “all bosses are the same–bad!” a whole office of people refusing to quit–but complaining daily, and choosing to maintain the status quo? i think it’s very weird.
it’s almost like these statements are “self-fulling prophecies”. if you’re a boss, you can pardon yourself for being terrible because every other boss sucks.
hope my possible reasons for people behaving that way aren’t too long winded! >.<||
Adam, searching the web and read this after i read Yeo keong Hee’s forex book at a friend’s place. I dont know about whether yeo is a real or con but if Yeo says that he can make 15-20k usd a month, can this amount be verified? I am not accusing anyone but claims anybody can make. Does Yeo have a record of his trading results, has anybody seen it?
Sign up for his free preview by calling 65-2740105. Come down and he will show you his accounts for verification. All my teachers show proof of their trading accounts so you can see how rich and successful they are. BTW, before he joined me, Keong Hee was trading millions for the Singapore government under GIC.
“Come down and he will show you his accounts for verification. All my teachers show proof of their trading accounts so you can see how rich and successful they are.”
fair deal, adam. got record, willing to show. yeo can walk the talk as well. that is good enough for me.
hi adam i’m richella.i am your biggest fan . maybe you know my sister,clarissa from tirta marta because she has entered your camp before.
i’mher little sister,i’ll bejoining next june ….,maybe?.But the point is i love your books and they are so inspiring.i cannot believe it is it true that you were a not intellegent boy when you were young (sorry but i don’t wan to use the word “dumb” because you are my superior) and gosh you are so incredible adam.i want to see u sometimes.but i want to know what is your e-mail address because,i know that your birthday is on 8’th of April.k so yeah,i still got my work so bye!
xoxo,Richella.
Hi,
i have read the secret of millionaire invester, business,trader, and 2 book of forex from akltg.
just recently i bump into this blog and encountered so many wisdom that i can learn and apply to change my current mindset.
it is really boring to hear people keep critising people without overing solution. i hope with this post, people will change to give support and encouragement instead.
well, you’ve made it this far with increasing success each time, transforming lives, it is living proof that, undeniably, you’re genuine. If you were a fraud within your first launch you were already digging your grave.
Society always have people like that.
So screw them, ignore them, Adam.
Be aware, but pay no heed.
After all, your time and energy is needed to be dedicated to those who need you more.